How to ensure cats get along

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  1. Foliage

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    So we have two male ragdolls. Once is almost 2 years old, the
    other one is coming up to 1 year old.

    They generally get along really well, the little one absolutely loves the older one and follows him everywhere, he loves to sleep on/next to him and cuddle him. The older one never instigates a cuddle however.

    They both play fight regularly, at least once a day, usually the little one instigates it but the older one usually wins. There is no noise when they play so I assume they are having fun most the time as it only lasts a minute or two.

    The problem is the little one sneaks up and pounces on the older cat sometimes when he is cleaning himself or sleeping which annoys him a lot, he will usually growl or run away when this happens. He older one will always bath the younger one as well, he is fairly aggressive when he does this and usually pins him down. The little one loves it however purring and nuzzling him like he is his mum.

    Over the last 6 months the older cat has become less and less hold-able, eg if you pick him up he doesn't like being held as much as he used to and seems more on edge. We used to be able to pick him up at any time and he wouldn't care. I'm guessing because the little one constantly wants to play with him and wakes him up when he is sleeping/relaxing.

    We have started separating them at night once a week (little one goes in a room, big one gets the house to himself) and just today are trying to separate them once a week during the day as well to give the older cat a break. The night after we separate them the older cat is much more huggable and seems more relaxed.

    Any suggestions to stop the older cat from becoming a reserved anxious mess? I am worried that he will regress more and more as he gets older. Is separating them at times a good idea? The younger cat doesn't care at all, he is the most care free cat I've ever met, strangers can pick him up by his rear legs and he will just purr away so I'm not that worried about him.

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    "Coming up to one year old" is still a kitten. That kind of aggressive hunt/play behaviour should quieten down as he matures. We have a 10yo cat and a 2yo cat and they fight a lot less than they used to now the younger one is being more cat-like (sleeping) and less kitten-like (hunting/destroying). But does the little one have any other outlet? Is he an indoor or outdoor cat? Do you play with him with toys etc? He might just be bored and the other cat is the main interesting thing for him.
     
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    Hahah our two cats are cnuts to each other now they are older. And then we got a dog. No advice really just saying it's pretty likely you can't train them to like each other.
     
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    personally I think when the kitten grows out of it's kitten stage they'll get along - but be prepared for this not to happen. I know someone who did something similar but the older cat bullied the kitten - that would be a much worse outcome.

    also, they are super cute. :)

    I learned a lot about behaviours and socialising from secret life of the cat.

     
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    I would say they do get along very well, it is more that the older cat just gets tired/annoyed when he is sleeping and the little one wants to constantly play, this in turn makes him more anxious etc when we cuddle him.

    I'll see how they go as the little one slowly calms down, though he can be a complete spastic at times.
     
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    As said above, the little one just needs something to entertain him. I'd also try to ensure that the older cat gets first scratches in front of the kitten at times as well so that they don't feel as if they've been replaced. Cats observe preferential treatment and can respond to it.

    I've got three cats, a tortoiseshell that my ex took (Danni) when we separated and I got back and two of her kittens (Kit and Jess), one of which (Jess) I got a few months later. When I got Jess, she would shy away for a bit, and the other cats would swipe at her frequently. A bit of cohabitation and showing them that they were all on an equal footing (sharing the first scratches, scratching them in front of the others) and they got along pretty well.
     
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    It may be because of being "bothered" by the younger cat and the change in the household, but it also could just be that he's now a "grown-up" and not as accommodating as a kitten. Have you tried getting him to come to you for cuddles? That's the only way my cat will be up for it, she'll always push you away if you instigate, but she's a real smooch when it's her idea (well, you can call her to come in, but then you've got to leave it to her to jump up and get comfy. Picking her up doesn't work, she'll just freak out, you have to let her do it "her way").
     
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    First thing in the morning if we let him out he jumps into bed and massages us both, same goes for when we get home from work, straight on the lap. So he still cuddly, but only at those two times.

    So I guess he is just becoming more of a "normal" cat heh. The young one is more like a puppy, very different personality to any other cat I've ever met.

    Definitely done out best to do this, though sometimes we will be cuddling the younger one and he will just stare at us from the corner of the room. Trying to avoid that as much as possible.
     
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    so far as there is a "normal". I would guess he's just asserting himself now he's a "proper adult". Try calling him for a cuddle at other times and see if he comes. I pretty much leave my cat to do as she pleases, but if I want her, she'll come. Strangely, she's just appeared at my side and is yelling at me. :D
    That'll probably change when he's mature, as well. He's gorgeous looking, same as Alfie. Veeeerrrry pretty boys.
     

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