Sad but common problem in 1st world societies today. So to counter this you want to join a group, good on you. There you blew it. If you want to join a group in conversation it pays to spend a moment listening and watching the group. From this we can judge the demeaner of the group. An internet forum makes this fairly easy to do because you can read a number of threads. Here you'd soon realise there's a number of well educated people in the field of science, some even employed in the field. Science itself always uses specific words to avoid confusion as much as possible, some of the sciences went so far as to use a specific language, if you wanted to study that field you used to have to learn that language. So there's a problem with "ballsacks", it doesn't denote any part of the human anatomy , here you're in effect inviting a group to lower the standard just so you can feel part of the group. Sorry, humans generally don't interact in that way. You need to learn some social skills otherwise you're going to remain lonely and have diffculty finding a job and a mate. See, evolution at work. Females might well be attracted by physical attributes however because human offspring need a considerable period of nurturing a female will tend to favour a mate for reproduction that can provide for them during those years. A stable job, a dwelling and a close circles of reliable friends all make a male more attractive.